50 Carl Rogers quotes about empathy and humanism

Carl Rogers Quotes

The only person who cannot be helped is that person who blames others.

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, I change.

It is not that this focus of power to the person, it is that it never takes it away.Advertising

Life, at its best, is a fluid and changing process in which nothing is fixed.

Since no one else can know how we perceive, we are the best experts on ourselves.

Man’s inability to communicate is the result of his inability to listen effectively.

We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, with real empathy. Yet listening, in such a special way, is one of the most powerful forces for change that I know of.

A person, discovering that he is loved for who he is, not for what he pretends to be, will feel that he deserves respect and love.

The paradigm of Western culture is that the essence of people is dangerous; therefore, they must be taught, guided, and controlled by those in higher authority.

I am more and more an architect of myself. I am free to want and choose. I can, through accepting my individuality‚Ķ be more of my uniqueness, more of my potentiality.

There are as many “real worlds” as there are people!

It is not often that such a deep and mutual personal encounter takes place, but I am convinced that if it does not happen from time to time, we do not live as human beings.

The only educated person is the one who has learned to learn and change.

The very essence of creativity is its novelty, and therefore we have no standard to judge it.

Each person is an island unto himself, in a very real sense; and only she can build bridges to other islands if she is willing to be herself first and allows herself to be herself.

The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is an address, not a destination.

Powerful is our need to be known, really known to ourselves and to others, even if only for a moment.

Being empathic is seeing the world through the eyes of the other and not seeing our world reflected in their eyes.

Neurotic behavior is quite predictable. Healthy behavior is unpredictable.

The organism has a basic tendency and effort: to update, maintain and improve the organism that experiences it.

Growth occurs when individuals confront problems, struggle to master them, and through that struggle develop new aspects of their abilities, capacities, and outlooks on life.

It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to take, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been buried deep.

Being original or different is considered “dangerous.”

The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.

Neither the bible, nor the prophets, nor the revelations of God or of men, nothing takes precedence over my direct experience.Advertising

There is in every organism, at any level, an underlying flow of movement toward the constructive fulfillment of its inherent possibilities.

I feel moved and fulfilled when I glimpse the fact, or allow myself the feeling, that someone cares about me, accepts me, admires me, or praises me.

No one else’s ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience.

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I can change.

People are as beautiful as sunsets, if they are allowed to be. Actually, maybe the reason we truly appreciate a sunset is because we can’t control it.

When I look at the world I am pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.

When the other person is suffering, confused, worried, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he or she doubts self-esteem, is unsure of identity, then understanding is required. The gentle and sensitive company of an empathic posture‚Ķ provides enlightenment and healing. In such situations, deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift that can be given to another.

We cannot change, we cannot get away from who we are until we accept who we are. So the change seems to come almost unnoticed.

What is most personal is the most universal.

In my relationships with people I have found that it does not help, in the long run, to act like I am something that I am not.

The most personal is the most universal.

The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.

People only seriously consider change when they feel accepted for being exactly who they are.

What you should be, is what you are now becoming.

If I were to look for the central core of difficulty in people as I have come to know them, it is that in the vast majority of cases they despise themselves, considering themselves useless and amoral.

One person cannot teach another person directly; one person can only facilitate another person’s learning

People are as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, “Soften the orange in the right corner a little.” I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch in amazement as it unfolds.

For meaningful learning, the one that causes profound changes in the individual, must be strong, and not limited to an increase in knowledge, but encompass all parts of existence.

I was forced to stretch my thinking, to realize that sincere and honest people could believe widely divergent religious doctrines.

I realize that if I were stable, cautious and static I would live in death. Therefore, I accept confusion, uncertainty, fear, and emotional ups and downs, because that is the price I am willing to pay for a fluid, perplexed, and exciting life.

The only thing I know is that anyone who wants to learn to learn.

In my early professional years I asked myself this question: How can you treat, heal, or change this person? Now I would formulate the question this way: How can I provide a relationship that this person can use for their own personal growth?

You cannot be afraid of death, actually, you can only be afraid of life.

True empathy is always free of any evaluative or diagnostic quality. This comes to the recipient with some surprise. “If they don’t judge me, maybe I’m not as evil or abnormal as I thought.”

If I can hear what he can tell me, if I can understand how it seems to him; If I can see its personal meaning for him, if I can feel the emotional flavor it has for him, then I am going to unleash powerful forces of change in him.