50 Best Brené Brown Quotes on Love

Best Brené Brown Quotes on Love:

1- “When we deny our stories, They define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending.” ~ Brené Brown

When we deny our stories, They define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending

2- “Joy is not a constant. It comes to us in moments – often ordinary moments. Sometimes we miss out on the bursts of joy because we’re too busy chasing down the extraordinary moments. Other times we’re so afraid of the dark we don’t dare let ourselves enjoy the light. A joyful life is not a floodlight of joy. That would eventually become unbearable. I believe a joyful life is made up of joyful moments gracefully strung together by trust, gratitude and inspiration” ~ Brené Brown

Joy is not a constant. It comes to us in moments - often ordinary moments. Sometimes we miss out on the bursts of joy because we're too busy chasing down the extraordinary moments. Other times we're so afraid of the dark we don't dare let ourselves enjoy the light. A joyful life is not a floodlight of joy. That would eventually become unbearable. I believe a joyful life is made up of joyful moments gracefully strung together by trust, gratitude and inspiration

3- “Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about how you’re feeling. To have the hard conversations.” ~ Brené Brown

Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about how you're feeling. To have the hard conversations

4- “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ~ Brené Brown

I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship

5- “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” ~ Brené Brown

Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we're supposed to be and embracing who we are

6- “We can have courage or we can have comfort, but we cannot have both.” ~ Brené Brown

We can have courage or we can have comfort, but we cannot have both

7- “Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~ Brené Brown

Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light

8- “Don’t try to win over the haters; you are not a jackass whisperer.” ~ Brené Brown

Don't try to win over the haters; you are not a jackass whisperer

9- “Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.” ~ Brené Brown

Let go of who you think you're supposed to be and embrace who you are

10- “Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together.” ~ Brené Brown

Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we're all in this together

11- “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~ Brené Brown

Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light

12- “People may call what happens at midlife ‘a crisis,’ but it’s not. It’s an unraveling – a time when you feel a desperate pull to live the life you want to live, not the one you’re ‘supposed’ to live. The unraveling is a time when you are challenged by the universe to let go of who you think you are supposed to be and to embrace who you are.” ~ Brené Brown

People may call what happens at midlife 'a crisis,' but it's not. It's an unraveling - a time when you feel a desperate pull to live the life you want to live, not the one you're 'supposed' to live. The unraveling is a time when you are challenged by the universe to let go of who you think you are supposed to be and to embrace who you are

13- “The most powerful teaching moments are the ones where you screw up.” ~ Brené Brown

The most powerful teaching moments are the ones where you screw up

14- “We don’t have to be perfect, just engaged and committed to aligning values with actions.” ~ Brené Brown

We don't have to be perfect, just engaged and committed to aligning values with actions

15- “We’re all so busy chasing the extraordinary that we forget to stop and be grateful for the ordinary.” ~ Brené Brown

We're all so busy chasing the extraordinary that we forget to stop and be grateful for the ordinary

16- “The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time.” ~ Brené Brown

The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time

17- “I’ve come to this belief that, if you show me a woman who can sit with a man in real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, I will show you a woman who, A, has done her work and, B, does not derive her power from that man. And if you show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I’ll show you a guy who’s done his work and a man who doesn’t derive his power from controlling and fixing everything.” ~ Brené Brown

I've come to this belief that, if you show me a woman who can sit with a man in real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, I will show you a woman who, A, has done her work and, B, does not derive her power from that man. And if you show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I'll show you a guy who's done his work and a man who doesn't derive his power from controlling and fixing everything

18- “If we own the story then we can write the ending.” ~ Brené Brown

If we own the story then we can write the ending

19- “Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: “Who has earned the right to hear my story?” If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love us for our strengths and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we have a friend, or small group of friends, or family who embraces our imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of belonging, we are incredibly lucky.” ~ Brené Brown

Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: "Who has earned the right to hear my story?" If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love us for our strengths and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we have a friend, or small group of friends, or family who embraces our imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of belonging, we are incredibly lucky

20- “I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” ~ Brené Brown

I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do

21- “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” ~ Brené Brown

Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love

22-“We can’t practice compassion with other people if we can’t treat ourselves kindly.” ~ Brené Brown

We can’t practice compassion with other people if we can’t treat ourselves kindly

23- “When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving. Our sense of worthiness—that critically important piece that gives us access to love and belonging—lives inside of our story.” ~ Brené Brown

When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving. Our sense of worthiness—that critically important piece that gives us access to love and belonging—lives inside of our story

24-“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.” ~ Brené Brown

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive

25- “Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” ~ Brené Brown

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change

26- “Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.” ~ Brené Brown

Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis

27- “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” ~ Brené Brown

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others

28- “Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect. When we don’t have that, we shape-shift and turn into chameleons; we hustle for the worthiness we already possess.” ~ Brené Brown

Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you're enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect. When we don't have that, we shape-shift and turn into chameleons; we hustle for the worthiness we already possess

29- “Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.” ~ Brené Brown

Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it's a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands

30- “We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying.” ~ Brené Brown

We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying

31- “Believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic.” ~ Brené Brown

Believing that you're enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic

32- “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” ~ Brené Brown

Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen

33- “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” ~ Brené Brown

Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness

34- “What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.” ~ Brené Brown

What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful

35- “Healthy striving is self-focused: “How can I improve?” Perfectionism is other-focused: “What will they think?”” ~ Brené Brown

Healthy striving is self-focused: "How can I improve?" Perfectionism is other-focused: "What will they think

36- “At the end of my life I want to be able to say I contributed more than I criticized.” ~ Brené Brown

At the end of my life I want to be able to say I contributed more than I criticized

37- “Raising children who are hopeful and who have the courage to be vulnerable means stepping back and letting them experience disappointment, deal with conflict, learn how to assert themselves, and have the opportunity to fail. If we’re always following our children into the arena, hushing the critics, and assuring their victory, they’ll never learn that they have the ability to dare greatly on their own.” ~ Brené Brown

Raising children who are hopeful and who have the courage to be vulnerable means stepping back and letting them experience disappointment, deal with conflict, learn how to assert themselves, and have the opportunity to fail. If we’re always following our children into the arena, hushing the critics, and assuring their victory, they’ll never learn that they have the ability to dare greatly on their own

38- “We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.” ~ Brené Brown

We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions

39- “I can’t be paralyzed anymore by the critics. My new mantra is, if you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, then I’m not interested in your feedback. You don’t get to sit in the cheat seat and criticize my appearance or my work with mean-spiritedness if you’re also not in the arena.” ~ Brené Brown

I can't be paralyzed anymore by the critics. My new mantra is, if you're not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, then I'm not interested in your feedback. You don't get to sit in the cheat seat and criticize my appearance or my work with mean-spiritedness if you're also not in the arena

40- “Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of
worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection
to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and
how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking,
Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t
change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.” ~ Brené Brown

Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of
worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection
to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and
how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking,
Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t
change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging

41- “You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability.” ~ Brené Brown

You can't get to courage without walking through vulnerability

42- “What we know matters but who we are matters more.” ~ Brené Brown

What we know matters but who we are matters more

43- “Every single person has a story that will break your heart. And if you’re paying attention, many people… have a story that will bring you to your knees. Nobody rides for free.” ~ Brené Brown

Every single person has a story that will break your heart. And if you're paying attention, many people… have a story that will bring you to your knees. Nobody rides for free

44- “Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty.” ~ Brené Brown

Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty

45- “One of the most painfully inauthentic ways we show up in our lives sometimes is saying “yes” when we mean “no,” and saying “no” when we mean “hell yes.”” ~ Brené Brown

One of the most painfully inauthentic ways we show up in our lives sometimes is saying "yes" when we mean "no," and saying "no" when we mean "hell yes."

46- “Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them- we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.” ~ Brené Brown

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them- we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare

47- “Every time we choose courage, we make everyone around us a little better and the world a little braver. And our world could stand to be a little kinder and braver.” ~ Brené Brown

Every time we choose courage, we make everyone around us a little better and the world a little braver. And our world could stand to be a little kinder and braver

48- “Squandering our gifts brings distress to our lives. As it turns out, it’s not merely benign or ‘too bad’ if we don’t use the gifts that we’ve been given; we pay for it with our emotional and physical well-being. When we don’t use our talents to cultivate meaningful work, we struggle. We feel disconnected and weighted down by feelings of emptiness, frustration, resentment, shame, disappointment, fear, and even grief.” ~ Brené Brown

Squandering our gifts brings distress to our lives. As it turns out, it's not merely benign or 'too bad' if we don't use the gifts that we've been given; we pay for it with our emotional and physical well-being. When we don't use our talents to cultivate meaningful work, we struggle. We feel disconnected and weighted down by feelings of emptiness, frustration, resentment, shame, disappointment, fear, and even grief

49- “Compassion is not a virtue — it is a commitment. It’s not something we have or don’t have — it’s something we choose to practice.” ~ Brené Brown

Compassion is not a virtue -- it is a commitment. It's not something we have or don't have -- it's something we choose to practice

50- “I believe in the healing power of laughter. I believe laughter forces us to breathe.” ~ Brené Brown

I believe in the healing power of laughter. I believe laughter forces us to breathe